{"id":11364,"date":"2020-08-05T12:37:06","date_gmt":"2020-08-05T12:37:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/markl101.sg-host.com\/?p=11364"},"modified":"2021-10-22T12:38:18","modified_gmt":"2021-10-22T12:38:18","slug":"confidentiality-is-a-slippery-slope-in-adoption-and-surrogacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartofsurrogacy.com\/confidentiality-is-a-slippery-slope-in-adoption-and-surrogacy\/","title":{"rendered":"Confidentiality is a slippery slope in Adoption and Surrogacy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>1. No one can reliably guarantee that the undisclosed identities of parties in donor arrangements or adoptions will remain forever anonymous or undisclosed. While a matching program, a medical facility and related professionals can use best efforts to keep identities shielded, they have no control over the future behavior of a donor, intended parents, any resultant child or any relatives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2. The pervasiveness of direct-to-consumer DNA testing kits and the ever expanding databases they maintain greatly increase the likelihood that a Donor Conceived Person (DCP) will find the donor, or that the donor will find the DCP. The same is true with adoptees.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3. Disclosure could be entirely inadvertent due to the actions of a relative utilizing a direct to consumer DNA kit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>4. Early disclosure to children then becomes a more compelling issue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>5. Consider choosing a donor who is open to contact by the DCP at the age of majority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>6. Ask any matching programs whether they are storing their data in any database or providing services to assist with any future contact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>7. Donor registry and other potential resources: a. Donor Sibling Registry&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.donorsiblingregistry.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.donorsiblingregistry.com\/<\/a>&nbsp;b. California Cryobank Sibling Registry&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.cryobank.com\/services\/sibling-registry\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.cryobank.com\/services\/sibling-registry\/<\/a>&nbsp;c. Information and support&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.wearedonorconceived.com\/resources-new\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"broken_link\">https:\/\/www.wearedonorconceived.com\/resources-new\/<\/a>&nbsp;d. Information and support:&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/creatingafamily.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/creatingafamily.org<\/a>&nbsp;e. \u201cLet\u2019s Talk About Egg Donation\u201d, by Marna Gatlin and Carole LieberWilkins (Book available Summer 2019) Twitter: @eggdonationbook and website&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.letstalkabouteggdonation.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">www.letstalkabouteggdonation.com<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>8. Consider referencing the DSR in any agreement-not a requirement to join, but acknowledgement of its existence, suggest that intended parent clients offer to pay for donor\u2019s registration.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>9. Acknowledge the high possibility of inadvertent disclosure in any agreement in which the parties are not exchanging identities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>10. Resources for children: a.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/creatingafamily.org\/infertility\/suggested-books-for-adults-andkids\/books-children-conceived-egg-donation\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"broken_link\">https:\/\/creatingafamily.org\/infertility\/suggested-books-for-adults-andkids\/books-children-conceived-egg-donation\/<\/a>&nbsp;b.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/creatingafamily.org\/infertility\/suggested-books-for-adults-andkids\/books-children-conceived-sperm-donation\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"broken_link\">https:\/\/creatingafamily.org\/infertility\/suggested-books-for-adults-andkids\/books-children-conceived-sperm-donation\/<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>11. Many states have adoption registries where information about adoptions, including identifying information, is housed. Depending on the state, it may be opt-in or opt-out format, but either way, the option may be available for future contact if the relevant parties agree. The following is a link to an article discussing each state\u2019s law regarding access to adoption records:&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.childwelfare.gov\/pubPDFs\/infoaccessap.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"broken_link\">https:\/\/www.childwelfare.gov\/pubPDFs\/infoaccessap.pdf<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>12. In some states, adoptees retain the right to inherit from and through their biological parents. In these instances, future disclosure through DNA testing could have far reaching financial implications.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>1. No one can reliably guarantee that the undisclosed identities of parties in donor arrangements or adoptions will remain forever anonymous or undisclosed. 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