How Do You Prepare to Become a Surrogate?

Serving as a surrogate can be one of the most selfless acts offered by a woman. Surrogacy occurs when medical issues prevent a couple from carrying a child, so another woman carries the baby for them. It is a huge decision that requires a lot of research and thought. If you are considering being a surrogate, it’s important to know a few details about the process to make an educated decision. 

Two Types of Surrogacies

There are different options for pregnancy when you become a surrogate. You will want to think about your preferences, to match the needs of the couple.

· Traditional surrogacy is when the woman uses her egg to become pregnant, and the intended father fertilizes it. This can be accomplished through either intrauterine insemination or in-vitro fertilization (IVF). 

· Gestational surrogacy is when the intended parents use in-vitro fertilization with their egg and sperm. The egg is then implanted in the carrier. So, while the surrogate is carrying the baby, she has no genetic connection to the child. 

Legal and Financial Considerations

There are many legal and financial matters involved in a surrogate agreement. 

· A compensated agreement means that the intended parents will cover all the costs involved with the pregnancy and a surrogacy fee. Those expenses can include medical care, legal fees, lost wages, and fertility treatments. 

· A compassionate agreement covers those same costs but does not pay any compensation to the carrier. This agreement typically occurs when the surrogate is a friend or family member.

Legal contracts must be fully executed to protect every party’s rights. It is recommended that each party uses separate legal counsel. Every state has different laws relating to surrogacy, so it is important to find an attorney who specializes in surrogacy agreements in your area to ensure the process goes smoothly for everyone.

Physical Considerations

You should physically be in good health with a suitable medical history. Initially, you may have to administer shots to yourself if you are doing IVF. Once you are pregnant, lifestyle changes may be required, including diet adjustments, exercise modifications, and changes to your sleep patterns.

Emotional Considerations

Pregnancy can be an emotional journey. As a surrogate, you are also helping someone else become parents and carrying a child you will give back to the parents after birth. That is a lot to take on, and all with the added hormones of pregnancy. You will also be opening your personal life to another couple. It can lead to an incredible bond. Finally, be prepared to respond to acquaintances or strangers congratulating you on the pregnancy. 

The decision to become a surrogate should not be taken lightly. It’s a journey that could take 19 to 26 months to complete. If you are considering being a surrogate, talk to women who have done it before. They can share their experience and prepare you for what to expect. Speak with surrogacy professionals to gather reliable information. 

Helping another couple become parents can be one of the most joyful experiences of your life. There are many resources to prepare for surrogacy if you decide it is the right path. Contact Heart of Surrogacy for more information or give us a call today at 813-280-6500. We can discuss these critical considerations, put you in touch with other successful surrogates, and help you make the right decision based on your situation.